Every new year we embark in new resolutions and new goals hoping to make the most of it. But how can we work on new goals and resolutions without taking a good look at how we have done things in the previous year?.
I first thought about this when watching a video by Lavendaire where she describes the way she monitors her progress during the year versus what she most desires at the beginning of the year. She calls it ”current me VS future me”. It is a great way to see if what we do every day is in line with what we most desire in life: our goals and dreams.
You can check her video here.
But for me, that structure did not work as much as I wanted as I need a more schematic and clearer picture of that exercise. But again, it was a very useful exercise to do at the beginning of the year or every three months I just needed something visually different.
Personally, I think I will monitor this list 4 times a year instead of once a year as this is not enough for me. I need a reminder more often to check if I am still on track because I have an amazing ability to just chill and get lost in the million things that I have to do. Clearly, this helps me to prioritize better. I organized it taking into account what it’s important for me: travels, achievements and changes, what I learned, life moments and old VS new.
Clearly, this helps me to prioritize better and to realize what I would have liked to achieve, what I would have changed…it is a good exercise to think about the lessons learned.
So after doing this exercise these are some of the things that I realized I learned this past year:
Sometimes what we need is what we think we can’t do
This has been a hard lesson for me to learn as there were many things I didn’t even dare to try. I come from a family where mistakes are not allowed and on the other hand, I could not afford to make them as I had to sustain myself from very early. Our relationship with RISK will determine how far we get in life and in our personal dreams. My relationship with risk to date has been minimal, hello and bye really. It has been only after checking all the boxes that were supposed to make me happy that I realized that maybe I should really do things in a different way, riskier but more fulfilling.
Our relationship with RISK will determine how far we get in life and in our personal dreams. My relationship with risk to date has been minimal, hello and bye really. It has been only after checking all the boxes that were supposed to make me happy that I realized that maybe I should really try to do things in a different way, for sure riskier but more fulfilling.
The corporate ladder is ok, and maybe with the right company it can be amazing, but I was not able to find a role that would allow me to feel fulfilled, where my ideas would be heard and where I could really use my skills.In fact, the times where this was acknowledged I ended up working extremely long hours and not having a personal life anymore. Burnout is real, and it did open my eyes and made me ask myself what am I doing with my life and why.
I find that in this moment, I see life in a similar way I did when I was in my 20s. I needed money so I worked for that, and on the side, I would do what I loved. Back then, it was my studies, and now it is my art, my classes, and this blog.
Where would this take me? No idea. But what I know is that it feels more honest somehow.
Everything you want is outside your comfort zone.
This one is painfully true. EVERYTHING. If you want to lose weight, well, will have to hit the gym, dance classes, eat different food…It is like stepping into somebody else’s life. But it is true that no change comes by doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.
It is hard to step out your comfort zone, but I also know that it always brings a bit of fresh air into our lives. If we don’t challenge ourselves we live stuck and bitterness will start showing its ugly face.
So what do you prefer, uncomfortable or bitter?
Our mind really has a life of its own: Asset or enemy?
Accept this and detach from the stories that it tells you, most of the time, on repeat.
I realized this when I was very young and started to have my period. During three to four days I would feel negative, pessimistic and pissed off. It is when I realized that our body and our hormones have an enormous effect on how we feel. This is comforting many times, as you may not be negative or pessimistic, you may have an unbalance in your hormones or a deficit in iodine for example. These things are important to acknowledge to detach ourselves from our thoughts and be able to live a more peaceful life.
ALL bad habits can be overcome
I am struggling with this one, as many of you, I can imagine. What I know for sure is that after a month things GET EASIER at least. If you stop eating donuts, for example, after a month of saying ‘no thank you’ to donuts it just gets easier to live without them.
This is also true for many things, and it does take time but I firmly believe it can be done.
There is a limit when it comes to planning your life
I have always been a planner but LIFE has made crystal clear that no matter how much I plan things will go in whatever way they must go. I guess the lesson here is to know that whatever life brings you we are able to just adjust and find happiness with what we get.
We need to see the bigger picture to achieve the biggest goals.
This helps when things become hard or overwhelming. To think WHY we are doing certain things, in the long run, will give us strength when we most need it. Sometimes our reasons are not important enough or we don’t want to think about what is really important to us and we prefer to go through the motions. What happens when you do this for too long is that you look back and you don’t even recognize or like yourself that much.
Thanks for reading!